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Sometimes messages come to me through soul work and spontaneous writing. I call this meditative or automatic writing. It consists of short and powerful explanations of everyday topics.
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The following information stems from my own question: why can't we always be happy, even when everything is going well? The answer really surprised me...
Why can people have a long period of happiness, yet at some point, desire the opposite? Do we really need this duality? Rain after a long period of sun?
Yes, to some extent. In the natural world, this cycle of balance occurs spontaneously. For animals, for example. However, for humans, it is usually triggered by our own will, as our conditions are often too good. At least, we think they are. A decade ago, diseases would come on their own, friendships would end, or businesses would fail. In today's generation, it is very easy to maintain ideals. It’s easy to maintain friendships because we have phones. It’s easy to maintain health because we have various types of medicine. These are just a few examples. We create rain because we need it. In most cases, things are going too well for us.
We choose a bad partner to keep ourselves occupied. Or a bad job to have something burdening us. It’s important to balance our change from constant good or "excess" with short-term decisions. If we want to feel pain, we don’t go injure ourselves or throw ourselves onto the street. We play soccer to feel our bodies. If we want to feel love or emotions, we don’t enter long-term relationships but take a dog for a walk. This gives us the most. When we want to feel alive, we don’t stand on the edge of a building for adrenaline, we go to a cemetery.
The idea is not to intensify current emotions to feel them, but to create the opposite. The opposite, which used to be spontaneous, is now triggered. This is how our brains work. An excess of anything, even good, is still an excess. But this doesn’t mean we have to remove the excess. Rather, we need to create the opposite.
Are any hormones triggered during this resetting or creating the opposite?
Yes, hormones are involved in everything we receive from the environment. It is our only way to perceive the world around us day by day.
How can we intentionally trigger this opposite?
With the previously mentioned examples. We can also keep track of our current achievements and past shortcomings. What succeeds for us today that didn’t in the past? If we set only bigger and bigger goals, we don’t really know where we stand at any given moment. We need to be aware of how far we’ve come, not just how well we are doing.
Create a scale or steps of our progress. The first can be basic, like school or the first job, and they can be small or large. This allows us to see only our own picture and not be clouded by others' achievements. Comparison here is pointless, as it has no relevance to our path. We can relate to it, but we must be careful not to be misled by it. With such tracking (this also works for mood), we regain the sense of moving forward.
It doesn’t matter how long it takes to reach the goal, only that we keep moving. Like in a car, no one minds a long drive, but we do mind waiting in one place.
How do you recognize moments of imbalance compared to times for change? For example, in a relationship...
When days do not change. When we frequently, too frequently, need the opposite. Natural imbalances and "insensitivity to good" occur occasionally. When they are too frequent, in many cases, the situation is to blame, not the imbalance.
What to track daily?
Positive aspects of the present and negative aspects of the past. Good characteristics of the current job, partner, etc., and negative past ones. For example, the previous job was stressful, with a lower salary... Positive aspects of the present: better salary, better relationships with coworkers... Anything that seems important to us. Or just the daily mood, to see how well we are doing or if we need changes. The best indicator for the future is our history. We can learn from it. When we know ourselves, we will also recognize external influences on us sooner. Time spent getting to know ourselves is never wasted.
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