Why is it so difficult for us to forgive ourselves for our mistakes?

 

The following information is a transcript of a 56-minute recording within my trance. The basic questions asked were selected from one of our readers.

 

Question 1: Why is it so difficult for us to forgive ourselves for mistakes? Is it a matter of ego that refuses to acknowledge our own mediocrity or something else?

Answer: They say that we don't have as many problems with our own mistakes as we do with the mistakes of others. In reality, we as humans quickly forgive ourselves or understand why we do the things we do. It's more conflicts with other people or when others hold grudges against us that put us in a dilemma. Did we do the right thing or not.

 

Q: More about people's reactions?

A: If there were no reactions, we wouldn't doubt ourselves. Doubting ourselves comes from the doubt of others in us.

 

Q: Is it possible to alleviate this? What can a person do to reduce or even eliminate this doubt?

A: Imagine that situation without another person involved. If that person was okay with it, what would you do? If your partner was okay with you leaving, would you leave them? This is how we determine whether our decision is for ourselves or not.

 

Q: Are they talking about mistakes, that a mistake only happens when others point it out to you?

A: Yes, others make us aware of the mistakes we made.

 

Q: If you quit your job and you're certain, but the person finds a much worse job than the one they had? Could someone say that it's a mistake?

A: Ah, in that context.

 

Q: Yes, precisely in the case of a mistake. Why is it so difficult to forgive? There are philosophies that say it's because we're human and that's what humans do.

A: They say it's more because mistakes take us out of our comfort zone. Usually, a mistake means you fall—or think you fall—one level lower. Then every level, whether lower or higher, is out of the comfort zone.

 

Q: So, can a better job also be a mistake?

A: Yes, in the context of the comfort zone.

 

Q: Also with people?

A: Yes, you are in the comfort zone with that person. If that's understandable.

 

Q: Here she says, is it a matter of excessive ego that refuses to accept one's own mediocrity, is that it?

A: It's difficult to explain these things because it depends a lot on the situation. It's very broad. They try to describe something big in a very narrow way. It can be a lesson, character, experience, everything.

 

Q: It would be easier if the person described their own mistake?

A: Yes.

 

Q 2: Do we come into this world only through experiences? As if our soul is enjoying itself like an actor in a movie, or do we have some greater role that we are not aware of, and only a few find out what it is?

Q: They say that every soul, every person has a role in this world, but not as predetermined as we think. It's more about just being here; that's their role.

 

Q: Just being on Earth?

A: Yes, like actors in a movie, but you don't know which movie. You go to an audition and see what happens. Only a handful of people have a bigger role than the average on Earth.

 

Edit: This is also one of the topics we have already covered and discussed. An important part related to this topic can be found in the following excerpt.

 

''What does this mean for you, who has access to these 25 entities, are you one of those who do it for balance? Is it possible to reach an even higher level?
It is possible to reach an even higher level, but I still don't see what lies on my path. Currently, I am at a level that can be reached.

 

Those who surpass this level are not exactly what we think. For us and for the environment, the level that the soul can maximally reach is sufficient enough for us as individuals, and there is no further benefit for us to go higher. Those rare few who experience the highest level do not share it further. They are like agents, assisting those above us. There is no benefit in sharing because there is nothing to share. There is a connection, but it is possible that a person at a visual level may have a lower state than a person at the level of the soul.''

 

It is not about the state; openness is at a different level that balances the equilibrium on Earth and with finances, projects, and everything, including the Earth itself. As for everyone else, our role ends at the earthly level. In a way, we are also "guardian angels" to others (more on this in future articles), helping others when they need it, if we are suited for it. These are difficult questions that intertwine.

 

Q: Is it part of our role to lend a helping hand when someone needs it?

A: The idea is that each person triggers certain signals for a path they follow. Our task is to trigger and acknowledge those signals. That is where our role ends—being helpful and offering assistance.

 

Q: Like ants that meet and touch each other if they need something?

A: Yes, we are one big anthill.

 

Q: So, there is some interaction?

A: Yes, our interaction ends in the sandbox; there would be no benefit from a higher connection. They cannot send a new person for every little thing we need. Physically, a new person cannot come down. In two months, that person cannot have 30 years of experience. Actors for movies, for example, must already be at auditions. The only way to solve this is with money. Your soul doesn't need help because it's a pure transaction. It doesn't need to search for people because it pays them. That's the possibility in today's society.

 

Edit: This refers to the previously discussed topic of family, its significance, and the importance of a group of people. An important excerpt can be read below. The entire article can be found here.

''The idea why we reproduce is because we are safer in groups, not in families, but in groups. Because we have developed so much, there are so many of us in the world that it is no longer necessary. We can be independent, whereas in the past we couldn't be. Now a person can go through life alone. Previously, this was not possible because of food and similar things.''

 

Q 3: Where does love originate from? It is often said to come from the heart, but I'm not sure if that's it.

A: Physically? Or is it from another source?

 

Q: Could it be both?

A: Yes. They say that the concept, as a whole, comes from the soul. The soul is like a program that is constantly learning in this case. Previous lives serve as its learning period.

 

Edit: The article related to the topic of soul memories can be read here. An important excerpt is provided below.

''The soul remembers everything, but whether we are aware of those memories on our life journey is another question.''

 

Through other people, it learns and is constantly in a period of learning, receiving hormonal signals through these experiences. It associates certain things with hormonal signals in the body. A kind of happiness. Happiness is somehow connected to love. Like Pavlov's experiment. Bell, food, bell, food. Love is conditioned because we associate it with positive things.

 

Q: And she likes it, so she amplifies it?

A: Yes. She sees it from past lives. She sees a child petting a dog and the child is happy. She remembers that. She sees another dog making a person happy, and she sees the dog and triggers that happiness or love. It's all one big pattern. Like a child who doesn't know how to laugh but later it becomes natural.

 

Q: Can the soul observe a girl petting a dog and trigger something in her? Some hormones?

A: Yes, because she sees that the girl is happy.

 

Q: Does her learned observation trigger something in her?

A: Yes, hormonally.

 

Q: And if she likes it, does she amplify it?

A: Yes, and she learns what triggers that thing. For example, hugs and the like. They trigger a kind of love. Those things are not love, but they trigger love because we perceive them as love. That's the whole cycle.

 

Q: Where does the soul learn about love? Does it come from the heart and soul?

A: Yes, it comes from experiences and history. Any kind of history.

 

Q: So when we say, "look into your heart," "speak from the heart," is that true?

A: Yes, something like that. Let's say that in previous lives, this soul had no experience of love. Because it's the first time on this planet, it would have to learn it anew here. And it would differ from a person who had already experienced it in previous lives. These things are very conditioned; they have been among us for so many years, millennia. Hugging, caressing. Partnerships, friendships. All of that.

 

Q: Let's say the soul is here for the first time and doesn't know what love is. Could it not learn about love in this lifetime? Is it too short?

A: It's not too short; they say it can be learned in a few years. But it depends on the lesson and how much of it they receive, how much they see. If they were alone in a cave for the entire lifetime, no, they wouldn't learn. But if they were born into a normal family, then yes. However, it could be very apparent even as a child that they are not ordinary. It would be visible.

 

Q: If the soul has already gone through so many lifetimes and has also fallen in love, is it not a problem for it to fall in love here?

A: No.

 

Q: No learning period?

A: No, because it's already known. It's a known process.

 

Q: What does the soul trigger when it likes someone? Is it possible that my soul likes your soul more than I do?

A: They say it's difficult to distinguish because love and lust are not the same. In terms of partnership, it's for reproduction. They looked more at love as a concept for everything. Even for friendship. Brothers, sisters, dogs, cats. Love as an emotion. To care, nurture. They say that most partnerships are based on reproductive or physical attraction. Physical attractiveness, not much nurturing. Most of the time.

 

Q: Why does love then fade away? Is it possible to love someone and then no longer love them after a certain period?

A: They say it depends on how much you love them. It depends on the situation, but they say if you love someone, you should love them from the beginning to the end. They don't see it fading because then it never was.

 

Q: So in these marital relationships, there isn't much love? Except for rare cases where they meet and stay together until the end?

A: Yes, that's about the soul. The soul, loving another soul or one person loving another person. It's like resonance. It's a deeper matter; it's not about accepting the person's flaws or advantages. You see that person as that person, not the mistakes.

 

Q: Why do people separate and things like that?

A: It's because of the flaws. But if you truly love that person, there are no flaws; that person is who they are. Theoretically, you could love someone with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. It's not about how many negatives a person has; it's something completely different.

 

Q: So true love is not so common in this world?

A: People don't search for it or recognize it. It's not that it doesn't exist; everyone could have it. It's not always as aesthetically pleasing to us. It's not always the romance we desire. We are deluded that it's not as exciting.

 

Q: Can love be boring?

A: Yes, it just goes on by itself. Then people create drama to have something to deal with. Divorces and such, it's all a kind of...

 

Q: Do twins experience this?

A: Yes, it's rarer in humans. Statistics are on their side. People can put someone they love on ice for entertainment. For something "more," something that takes them away. Love shouldn't be tumultuous because there is nothing to shake. It's not about accepting; it's more about the desire to share life with that person.

 

Q: Then why do we seek this entertainment?

A: Those are our emotional peaks, like sugar or drugs. People already say that toxic relationships give us the greatest sense of being alive.

 

Q: Like addicts?

A: Yes, after getting a normal dose, it doesn't hit them. The point is not to get used to those peaks; the point is to get used to the abstinence from them. To learn to be without.

 

Q: That's a tough task for humans?

A: Yes, that's why most alcoholics completely stop drinking because it's hard to control. We should find our peaks elsewhere. If a person seeks themselves through relationships, they should seek themselves through sports or animals. Drawing. Something that doesn't have physical consequences because it leaves an impact on us and the soul. What we give through relationships, others also give to us. It's not good to respect them.

 

That's why love in partnerships usually fades after having children because the instinct towards that person fades. Those were hormones. If they look broadly, true love could be seen in people who are together without children.

 

Q: Because they have no reason to be together?

A: Yes, from a physical standpoint. They are together simply because they want to be together.

 

Q: Could your loved ones recognize love or infatuation in someone?

A: Yes, the person should already know it somewhere within themselves, but it's possible to discern it.