Question: Children or Adoption?

Answer: It depends on us and our directions in life. Those who like to create should create. Those who like to accept, should accept. We shape children regardless of whether we share blood or not. This also applies to adoption. It is simply easier to accept a child as they are when they are not your own. This is a better trait of people who adopt. It’s as if they manage to step back and allow the child to develop in their desired direction. As a parent, this is a bit harder because we automatically guide the child along our own path. Since the child is raised in this way, it can be fine for them.

In the case of adoption, this wouldn't work, as the child already joins the family with an established personality. This benefits the child in the long run, but not the parents. It is easier to reject information that is not given to you as your own or presented that way. So, those who want to guide and educate find it easier to do so with their own children, even if it is not advisable. This does not mean that the child will be satisfied or that they will love you after the age of 18. It is just a statement.

Adoption is for those who are strong enough as parents to accept that the child will develop in their own direction, no matter how much we influence them. That's just how it is.