Question: Can a Person Be Grown Up?

Answer: It depends on the soul's experiences. We can appear grown up because of our experiences or because we learn easily from them. People who strive to be grown up may just be covering up their lack of learning from experiences, showing that they haven’t learned anything. Childish people enjoy the process and often don't want to learn something new so that they leave the door open to re-experience it. This can be good or somewhat worse, depending on their character and desires.

On one hand, they are afraid of being grown up and knowing "too much," so they stay in the comfort zone of old experiences, like repeating a grade in school. They are afraid of progress or are not yet ready for it. Maybe they don't like the direction their life is taking. We can learn something new from everything, but if we have to learn the same thing repeatedly, it means we refuse to accept something, we refuse to "grow up." Grown-ups who don’t consider themselves grown up just accept those lessons, life after life.

Childish people are usually afraid of growth. They get something from it that growth would not provide. There’s nothing wrong with it; it's just a personal decision. To grow/mature, we must decide to move forward in life. And with that, we also accept aging. Maintaining childlikeness is a kind of closing our eyes to reality. It can be beneficial, or it may not be, depending on our goals and desires. It is possible to achieve both, but only by changing parts of our character or by handing over that part and those decisions to others so that they do not affect us.

It requires some flexibility or separation of our ambitions from our personal world.